The 7 ’emotional health’ rules

20 June 2015

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Spend a few minutes every day to brush your teeth, wash your hands and clean the countertop of your kitchen and everything to protect your physical health. But how much time you spend on activities that protect your emotional health?
We experience little trauma as often as physical wounds like rejection, failure and loss. While we know what to do in case of cold or fracture, often alarmed when they need to see an emotional “wound”.
Speaking under the TED conferences, psychologist Guy Winch points out that the price we pay when we ignore our emotional health is very heavy. For this reason, we recommend that we keep in our daily lives 7 below ground rules  for our “emotional health”.

1. We must not ignore the emotional pain

Emotional pain is a sign of psychological injury, just as physical pain is a sign of physical injury. We must not ignore any of the two types of pain, especially if in the first case the discomfort it causes is strong, lasting and debilitating.

2. we must separate the mild emotional traumas of them requiring special treatment

We can easily distinguish a scratch from a wound that needs stitches. The same should do the “emotional scratches” and wounds requiring “emotionally stitches.” If the psychological stress and discomfort no less overwhelming with time, might need intervention by the specialist.

3. we should not let rejection to pay us

Our rejection hurts emotionally and can be a blow to confidence and our self-esteem. If you experience rejection, we should then exert rigorous self-criticism. Instead, we must focus on our strengths and to grow as much as possible.

4. We need to retrieve the control after failure

Failure outcome of an effort can cultivate despair and resignation. But we must not let negative emotions to prevail. We must reflect on what we did wrong and improve our strategy to succeed the next time. In other words, we should not just look to the barrier, should think what is the best way to overcome it.

5. we should not let guilt residues

In some cases, the guilt is driving force to make amends for something we did wrong. If, however, it intensifies and remains for a long time, deprives us of the joy and Detunes us. We have to look straight in the eye and to treat it depending where stems from someone else or from ourselves.

6. We need to fill the gaps

It takes time to get over a loss. But as time passes, we must find ways to fill the gaps that were left. We must consider in which areas of our lives gaps created after the loss and slowly fill them with activities, objects and people to meet the needs not covered by the loss.

7. we must implement strategies of constructive problem-solving

The rehash unpleasant events of the past leads to frustration, passivity and sadness. We must learn lessons from past experiences, but without falling into a vicious circle emotionally painful thoughts.