The 5 most valuable words you can say to someone with depression

29 June 2015

The secret people re-el magazine

Often we do not know how to behave to someone who, it is considered to have symptoms of depression, because we fear that it will make things worse.
Depression plagues millions of people worldwide. Many of them have not been formally diagnosed with depression, but also develop symptoms in their daily lives and everyone in their environment can perceive it.
Often we do not know how to behave to someone with depression. Dr. Gregory Dalack, head of the Psychology Department at the University of Michigan, proposes the following to may be useful talk to someone who has depression.

“I am here for you”
Family members, friends and partners of people with depression can help in a way that is not critical, even if it is just to transfer them to an appointment with their doctor, remind them to take their medication, or help in simple, daily routine.

“You are not alone”
People with depression often feel that they have no help from anywhere. It is important that people who are close to them to assure them that they are with them. It may sound simple, but just a reminder that what you feel is temporary and that you will be close to them, is very important.

“It is not your fault for this”
To tell our loved ones that we know that depression is passed is not their fault is vital to the healing process. Many people do not understand it, but to say to someone with depression to “unstuck” from what is happening, it implies that this is a simple choice. But this is wrong. Depression is not an option, is a disease.

“I’ll come with you”
This concerns any sessions with a psychologist or psychiatrist that the patient needs to do. The only thing that is more difficult than to convince someone to seek treatment is to ask them to carry out and complete it. Saying that you go with them to the meeting, you are not just supportive, but you tell them indirectly, that what they have is treatable.

Do not say anything at all!
Sometimes only your physical presence may prove valuable for someone who is depressed. Your actions can “say” a lot more than your words. Your presence next to them, leaving the patient to feel they have a backup.